About Caroline Wessling, LMFT
Let me be the first to tell you
You're not broken
You're not here because something's wrong with you.
You're here because you're exhausted. You look successful on the outside—good career, stable life, got it together—but inside you're anxious, overwhelmed, second-guessing everything.
You've learned to be capable, composed, and high-functioning. You've learned to power through. But no one taught you how to actually rest, trust yourself, or stop the constant mental noise.
The perfectionism, the people-pleasing, the overthinking—these aren't flaws. They're strategies you developed to stay safe, succeed, or be accepted.
They worked for a while. But now they're exhausting you.
Our work together isn't about fixing you. It's about understanding why you do what you do, and updating those patterns so they serve you instead of draining you.
A therapist who gets it
Why work with me.
Before I became a therapist, I lived a version of what you might be experiencing.
I got my MBA, spent over a decade in corporate finance. From the outside, I had it together—the career, the stability, the respect.
But I also saw how capable, intelligent women could be quietly falling apart inside while excelling at work. How we could be strategic, accomplished, financially successful—and still anxious, emotionally exhausted, and unsure of ourselves.
I watched women (including myself) tie their worth to their performance. Overwork to prove themselves. Say yes when they meant no. Carry the weight of everyone else's expectations while their own needs went unmet.
I left that world because I wanted to help women navigate that tension differently.
Not by working harder. Not by being more perfect. But by understanding what's driving the anxiety, building actual tools to change it, and reconnecting with the parts of themselves they've been ignoring.
How I work
I understand the competing pressures you are dealing with.
My background in business means I get the career pressure, the financial stress, the strategic overthinking, the need to appear capable while struggling privately.
My training as a therapist means I know how to help you process it—not just understand it intellectually, but actually shift it at a nervous system level.
For understanding patterns, building skills, making sense of your experiences.
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For nervous system work when talking about it isn't enough
Practical, real-world focus
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Because you need an approach that fits your actual life
What therapy with me is like
Therapy with me is…
A place where you can stop performing and just be yourself
Collaborative — we figure out your patterns and goals together
Focused on both emotional depth and real-life practicality
A space to untangle overwhelm, build clarity, and trust yourself again
Supportive — you'll feel seen, understood, and safe to change
Therapy with me is not…
One-size-fits-all or judgmental
A quick fix — real change takes time and intention
About fixing who you are or becoming someone different
A place where you have to prove yourself
Just talking about your problems without actually changing them
My values
I believe…
Your patterns make sense
The anxiety, the perfectionism, the people-pleasing—they developed for a reason. Understanding why you do what you do is the first step to changing it.
You're the expert on your life
I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to help you build clarity so you can trust your own decisions. Therapy is collaborative—we figure this out together, not with me as the authority and you following directives.
Real change involves both the mind and the body.
Understanding your patterns intellectually is helpful. But lasting change requires your nervous system to feel safe enough to let go of old strategies. That's why I use both talk therapy and Brainspotting—to work with your whole system, not just your thoughts.
The systems around us shape us
The pressure to be perfect, to prioritize work over everything, to put others' needs first—these aren't personal failures. They're the result of living in systems that value productivity over well-being. We'll look at how these forces have shaped you, so you can make choices that actually fit your life.
My Background & Training
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Education
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Masters in Counseling Psychology the Wright Institute
Masters in Business Administration, Georgetown University
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Professional Affiliations
California Association of Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT)
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Training
Brainspotting Phase 1 and Phase 2
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for insomnia (CBT-i)